The Chase – One person’s pursuit of another, fuelled by the desire to form a relationship
So you’ve started seeing a guy, you quite like him, but you’re worried that you’ve started treading into ‘chasing him’ territory… How do you get him to chase you, and not push him away?
1. Remain a woman of high-value
This is all about confidence in yourself. You are amazing and he has obviously seen something he likes in you. That confidence you oozed when he first noticed you is part of the reason he wants to spend time with you, so don’t lose it!
It’s easy to worry about where ‘seeing him’ is going, but don’t let insecurity creep up on you – retain that high-value attitude: you deserve him and any man will put the effort and investment into a woman he respects.
Keep healthy and happy and that energy will translate.
2. Give them time to miss you
Many women worry that if they start becoming unavailable, then the guy will forget about you. Not true!
If you are too available, or always at his beck and call, then it’s too easy. Equally, if he knows that he only needs to talk to you, or see you, a certain amount of times a week – and you’ll still be there for him no matter what – he will see you as someone he can just keep stringing along.
A man will be more compelled if you’re not there for him on a plate: it’s more of an accomplishment: he’s had to earn your time and respect.
Being hard to get is a cliché for a reason – because it works. I don’t mean play games: just allow for breathing space, and time for them to wonder what you’re doing that’s better than talking to, or seeing him.
Make a guy feel like he’s met an equal, not someone whom he doesn’t have to bother trying with.
3. Keep up your life outside of him
The best way to get a guy to chase you is to show him that there are other things in your life taking up your time.
Go out with your friends regularly, keep up your hobbies, work hard at your job. It’s incredibly easy to give up all the things you love when you start seeing someone, but it is at this time where it’s never more imperative to keep them up.
You can still feel those feelings – just go out there, meet more people and generate activity in other areas of your life. When he sees that, he’ll learn he has to prove himself worthy of your time. It will be a challenge, and consequently, he will start chasing.
At the point where he wants more of your time, then that’s the point where you know he’s serious.
4. Be patient
Remain patient and don’t try to push anything: keep that healthy attitude. Let him chase you.
Simply, don’t make this person the sole centre of your universe, when they haven’t given you the opportunity to prove themselves worthy of being your whole universe yet.
Finally, if he doesn’t put in the effort or merely continues to take advantage of you, then cut your losses – put yourself first. If he is happy with putting in minimal effort, with little investment, then it sounds like he doesn’t deserve you in the first place. Go on, go out there and get the guy to chase you!