Being in a relationship (when right) is brilliant. But sometimes it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. If we’re really honest and self-reflexive, sometimes we women can be tricky.
As a partner you may get mixed signals, get nagged, or moaned at. You may say something that was ‘wrong’, but you’re not really sure why. You may be told that your not being loving enough, or making enough effort (we’ve all been there gals!).
So what’s the secret? How come some people just ‘get it’?
What Women Want
The one thing all women universally want from a relationship, whether they realise it or not, is to feel genuinely wanted.
To be with someone who makes you feel that they are the luckiest person in the world – because they are with you.
To feel like the person you’re with thinks you’re really really amazing – like – so much that they wouldn’t even think about needing anyone else.
Being in a relationship is about being someone’s priority, and feeling truly like one is vital.
Now… I’m not saying this needs to be wholly explicit. Every woman is different. Feeling loved doesn’t necessarily mean being showered with expensive gifts, or showing it overtly.
It’s the little things.
It’s being proud to walk down the street with you hand-in-hand. It’s smiling at you when you are talking to someone else, because they admire something about you. It’s the showing of appreciation for all the things you do.
The quickest way to ruin a relationship is to take a woman for granted. To not be there when she needs you, or to presume she will be there regardless of how little effort you put in.
But we’re also not stupid. We don’t expect someone who is 100% perfect. Us women just want someone with goals and drive to put in effort, not only with us, but their own lives. You don’t need a pre-planned life for yourself, or go over-the-top with extravagant gestures of romance, just factor us in.
It sounds so basic, but the reason girls fall for ‘charmers’, is because most men simply don’t show their real feelings in a way which we understand. Women are fabulous, but we’re not mind-readers.
Make us feel (genuinely) like you are the luckiest person alive, because you love us for everything we are, and you’ll be bountifully rewarded.