When you break up with someone you’ve been with for a long time, it can be really really difficult. You’ve gone from sharing everything with your best friend, to having lost the person you expected to spend the rest of your life with. Some people thrive when they become newly single after a large period of time in a relationship, but…
18 years ago, Sex and The City hit our screens for the first time, and we fell in love. The four women who encompass all women, through 94 episodes, showed us every dating scenario and every mistake you could ever make with every type of man. From throwing shoes at the TV because of Mr. Big, or getting irritated by Carrie’s selfishness or…
So you’ve met a pretty cool girl, she’s funny, cute and doesn’t seem like a total-psycho. You actually like her. But you don’t want to scare her off, or be friend-zoned indefinitely. I can think of only a handful of men in my life who exhibit every single one of the traits below, every time I meet them, and it’s amazing…
Focussing on hitting every single tick box in our partner ‘checklist’, is possibly the biggest mistake a singleton can make when dating. Everyone has one. Whether it is subconscious, or written down: most people have a checklist of character or personal traits which they look for in another person when dating. If the person they come across does not tick…
Let’s face the facts — the guy or gal you’re with has probably had sex with someone else. Perhaps more than you’d like. Perhaps in crazy ways which you presumed happened only in the most exclusive S&M clubs of cities. Nonetheless, if you want to be with your partner, it’s your moral imperative to get over it. No one’s going to say that it’s easy to deal with your…
The Chase – One person’s pursuit of another, fuelled by the desire to form a relationship So you’ve started seeing a guy, you quite like him, but you’re worried that you’ve started treading into ‘chasing him’ territory… How do you get him to chase you, and not push him away? 1. Remain a woman of high-value This is all about…
Relationship’s are complex, amazing and exciting, so why can they lose their spark? Most of the time the transition is so gradual and slight that you can wake up one day and realise that the relationship you have has lost… well… something. So what is the #1 reason that a relationship goes stale? Well it boils down to a common…
What is a healthy relationship? With the only depiction most people getting being from television, films or relationships close to them, many of us are perplexed as to what a healthy relationship actually looks like. Most of the love stories we see in pop culture are rooted in infatuation, not real love. Some degree of infatuation is fine, but a relationship…
You decided that day where to meet and what time, and together have picked out a nice restaurant with lush food to eat. Having made an effort: a smidgen of lipstick, dash of perfume, you arrive early. Then you receive a message saying he’s on his way, and will be there in a few minutes. The clock ticks on, you…
Women and men have been doing it for centuries: literally doing whatever it takes to hold onto a relationship until we reach the point of hating, hurting and hardly speaking, all because love is supposed to conquer all. We believe that if we feel any love at all for our partner, we must stay, fight and make the relationship work. This…
So this week I received my first, fully-fledged, negative piece of criticism. The comment in question highlighted how my lack-of-experience didn’t give me the right to write my posts. How my age means I clearly have not experienced enough of life to be in a position to express my ideas and opinions on relationships, dating and love. Firstly, I have…
So your relationship is going well and the time has come to introduce your partner to your family – or to meet theirs. Uh-oh. Only a handful of situations come to mind when thinking about the most nerve-wracking times you will encounter in a relationship. Meeting the parents is most definitely one of them. As the holidays draw closer, ‘tis…
It’s the age-old question. Made famous by the cult classic (and my personal fav), When Harry Met Sally: can men and women really have and maintain a purely one-on-one platonic friendship? I held the belief for a long time that men and women simply could not be just friends, even more so if the friendship was one-on-one. I was adamant…
A raw break-up is possibly one of the hardest, most painful things we ever have to go through. Even worse if it was never our decision to end things, it can be hard to know what to do with yourself in the aftermath of such a life-changing event. No matter how many kind words people give, or how many hugs…
I have a terrible tendency, despite all my posts on this blog, to completely do the opposite of what I suggest as advice. I fail at cutting out people that make my life harder, I struggle with going with the flow in relationships and I really suck at adjusting to change. I feel like a bit of a hypocrite. However,…
The long distance relationship (LDR) is probably the most contentious and intriguing when it comes to types of relationships. Some people doubt them, some refuse to be in them and pretty much everyone agrees that they are not ideal. However an increasing amount of couples seem to be embarking on the challenge that is the LDR. And for good reason.…
Non-Relationship – The grey area in between taking the plunge into a committed relationships and platonic friendship. Often due to indecision on the part of one or more parties involved. Symptoms may include: Holding hands, non-committal sex, spending an inordinate amount of time together, flirting on text messages. One of my close girlfriends and I recently discussed the dynamics…
“Since I was fifteen, I’ve either been with a guy or breaking up with a guy. I haven’t given myself two weeks of a breather to just deal with myself!” – Liz Gilbert, Eat Pray Love This quote is me, I genuinely couldn’t have worded it better myself. It would seem that every time I say I am going to…