A year ago in Adjusting to the Change, I wrote: “Everyone tells you how hard leaving University is. You even fully expect it to be hard. But it turns out you can’t really comprehend the bizarre mixture of very real feelings you have when actually going through your first steps into the real world. Leaving friends, the town or city…
So you’ve met a pretty cool girl, she’s funny, cute and doesn’t seem like a total-psycho. You actually like her. But you don’t want to scare her off, or be friend-zoned indefinitely. I can think of only a handful of men in my life who exhibit every single one of the traits below, every time I meet them, and it’s amazing…
Focussing on hitting every single tick box in our partner ‘checklist’, is possibly the biggest mistake a singleton can make when dating. Everyone has one. Whether it is subconscious, or written down: most people have a checklist of character or personal traits which they look for in another person when dating. If the person they come across does not tick…
The biggest learning curve from being in a long distance relationship, is that you shouldn’t have one just because you have the opportunity to do so. You both need to commit to it, fully and completely. If you are a regular follower of Never Settle, then you will know from Is There Such a Thing As Bad Timing, I never…
Let’s face the facts — the guy or gal you’re with has probably had sex with someone else. Perhaps more than you’d like. Perhaps in crazy ways which you presumed happened only in the most exclusive S&M clubs of cities. Nonetheless, if you want to be with your partner, it’s your moral imperative to get over it. No one’s going to say that it’s easy to deal with your…
The Chase – One person’s pursuit of another, fuelled by the desire to form a relationship So you’ve started seeing a guy, you quite like him, but you’re worried that you’ve started treading into ‘chasing him’ territory… How do you get him to chase you, and not push him away? 1. Remain a woman of high-value This is all about…
Regardless of how long you’re seeing someone, when they end things with you out of the blue, it can be seriously tough. It’s even worse when the old cracker of a chestnut ‘I’m just not ready to commit to something’ is pulled out of the bag. You end up inevitably asking yourself all these questions: What changed? Did I do…
Relationship’s are complex, amazing and exciting, so why can they lose their spark? Most of the time the transition is so gradual and slight that you can wake up one day and realise that the relationship you have has lost… well… something. So what is the #1 reason that a relationship goes stale? Well it boils down to a common…
You decided that day where to meet and what time, and together have picked out a nice restaurant with lush food to eat. Having made an effort: a smidgen of lipstick, dash of perfume, you arrive early. Then you receive a message saying he’s on his way, and will be there in a few minutes. The clock ticks on, you…
Women and men have been doing it for centuries: literally doing whatever it takes to hold onto a relationship until we reach the point of hating, hurting and hardly speaking, all because love is supposed to conquer all. We believe that if we feel any love at all for our partner, we must stay, fight and make the relationship work. This…
Why Every Man Should Date An Independent Woman: She’s self-reliant Being in a relationship adds to her life. She doesn’t need someone to cure her loneliness. She makes her own plans, has her own goals but loves having an equal partner who admires her strength and adds to her happiness. Feeling suffocated is a rarity At times, you may even question if…
A raw break-up is possibly one of the hardest, most painful things we ever have to go through. Even worse if it was never our decision to end things, it can be hard to know what to do with yourself in the aftermath of such a life-changing event. No matter how many kind words people give, or how many hugs…
So you’ve been seeing someone for a few weeks, you’ve been on a few dates, been round their house; you may have even slept together. Then all of a sudden – radio silence. Out of the blue, you no longer hear from them, they’ve disappeared off the face of the earth. This, ladies and gentlemen, is a classic example of…
Non-Relationship – The grey area in between taking the plunge into a committed relationships and platonic friendship. Often due to indecision on the part of one or more parties involved. Symptoms may include: Holding hands, non-committal sex, spending an inordinate amount of time together, flirting on text messages. One of my close girlfriends and I recently discussed the dynamics…
