When you break up with someone you’ve been with for a long time, it can be really really difficult. You’ve gone from sharing everything with your best friend, to having lost the person you expected to spend the rest of your life with. Some people thrive when they become newly single after a large period of time in a relationship, but…
A year ago in Adjusting to the Change, I wrote: “Everyone tells you how hard leaving University is. You even fully expect it to be hard. But it turns out you can’t really comprehend the bizarre mixture of very real feelings you have when actually going through your first steps into the real world. Leaving friends, the town or city…
18 years ago, Sex and The City hit our screens for the first time, and we fell in love. The four women who encompass all women, through 94 episodes, showed us every dating scenario and every mistake you could ever make with every type of man. From throwing shoes at the TV because of Mr. Big, or getting irritated by Carrie’s selfishness or…
So you’ve met a pretty cool girl, she’s funny, cute and doesn’t seem like a total-psycho. You actually like her. But you don’t want to scare her off, or be friend-zoned indefinitely. I can think of only a handful of men in my life who exhibit every single one of the traits below, every time I meet them, and it’s amazing…
Focussing on hitting every single tick box in our partner ‘checklist’, is possibly the biggest mistake a singleton can make when dating. Everyone has one. Whether it is subconscious, or written down: most people have a checklist of character or personal traits which they look for in another person when dating. If the person they come across does not tick…
The biggest learning curve from being in a long distance relationship, is that you shouldn’t have one just because you have the opportunity to do so. You both need to commit to it, fully and completely. If you are a regular follower of Never Settle, then you will know from Is There Such a Thing As Bad Timing, I never…
Let’s face the facts — the guy or gal you’re with has probably had sex with someone else. Perhaps more than you’d like. Perhaps in crazy ways which you presumed happened only in the most exclusive S&M clubs of cities. Nonetheless, if you want to be with your partner, it’s your moral imperative to get over it. No one’s going to say that it’s easy to deal with your…
Regardless of how long you’re seeing someone, when they end things with you out of the blue, it can be seriously tough. It’s even worse when the old cracker of a chestnut ‘I’m just not ready to commit to something’ is pulled out of the bag. You end up inevitably asking yourself all these questions: What changed? Did I do…
Relationship’s are complex, amazing and exciting, so why can they lose their spark? Most of the time the transition is so gradual and slight that you can wake up one day and realise that the relationship you have has lost… well… something. So what is the #1 reason that a relationship goes stale? Well it boils down to a common…
What is a healthy relationship? With the only depiction most people getting being from television, films or relationships close to them, many of us are perplexed as to what a healthy relationship actually looks like. Most of the love stories we see in pop culture are rooted in infatuation, not real love. Some degree of infatuation is fine, but a relationship…
Partner Poaching: 1. Attempting to lure someone of the opposite sex away from their partner through various strategies in order to be with them and/or to prevent their partner from being with them If you’ve been dating for a while, chances are you have encountered somebody trying to poach someone else’s partner in some form or another. Unfortunately, I am ashamed…
You decided that day where to meet and what time, and together have picked out a nice restaurant with lush food to eat. Having made an effort: a smidgen of lipstick, dash of perfume, you arrive early. Then you receive a message saying he’s on his way, and will be there in a few minutes. The clock ticks on, you…
Women and men have been doing it for centuries: literally doing whatever it takes to hold onto a relationship until we reach the point of hating, hurting and hardly speaking, all because love is supposed to conquer all. We believe that if we feel any love at all for our partner, we must stay, fight and make the relationship work. This…
So this week I received my first, fully-fledged, negative piece of criticism. The comment in question highlighted how my lack-of-experience didn’t give me the right to write my posts. How my age means I clearly have not experienced enough of life to be in a position to express my ideas and opinions on relationships, dating and love. Firstly, I have…
I think it’s safe to say, the majority of women have spent a variable amount of time banging their heads against a brick wall due to being absolutely confuzzled about men. Whether it’s because of their behaviour, actions or simply because we just don’t understand their motives or reasoning behind their decisions, sometimes comprehending what’s going on in men’s brains…
Why Every Man Should Date An Independent Woman: She’s self-reliant Being in a relationship adds to her life. She doesn’t need someone to cure her loneliness. She makes her own plans, has her own goals but loves having an equal partner who admires her strength and adds to her happiness. Feeling suffocated is a rarity At times, you may even question if…
A raw break-up is possibly one of the hardest, most painful things we ever have to go through. Even worse if it was never our decision to end things, it can be hard to know what to do with yourself in the aftermath of such a life-changing event. No matter how many kind words people give, or how many hugs…
As I sit on the long journey back to London from Aberystwyth, where I have just spent a gorgeous week’s holiday relaxing, eating and seeing my boyfriend, I can’t help but feel quite sad about saying ‘goodbye for now’ again. Being in a long distance relationship, saying goodbye for a period of (sometimes unknown) time, kind of comes with the…
“Since I was fifteen, I’ve either been with a guy or breaking up with a guy. I haven’t given myself two weeks of a breather to just deal with myself!” – Liz Gilbert, Eat Pray Love This quote is me, I genuinely couldn’t have worded it better myself. It would seem that every time I say I am going to…
When I was fifteen, I thought I knew everything. Obviously, I was wrong. I don’t regret anything, as I am who I am today because of my choices. But much has changed and despite it only being six years ago, there are some things I wish I could say to my younger, less mature self. 1. Boys are fun, but…
