A raw break-up is possibly one of the hardest, most painful things we ever have to go through. Even worse if it was never our decision to end things, it can be hard to know what to do with yourself in the aftermath of such a life-changing event. No matter how many kind words people give, or how many hugs you receive, it’s one of those experiences that really does just take time to heal.
However, in the meantime there are some little things you can do to help relieve the weight on your shoulders and the hole in your heart. They may seem obvious, but it is often easy to forget how to simply ‘be’ during this period of transition.
Do something you love
Whether it be painting, playing tennis or simply socialising. Do all those things that you didn’t have time for when in your relationship, all the things that make you happy.
Delete them off social media
Nothing is worse than seeing your ex on social media, whether it be tagging themselves in a place or with people or even seeing photos of them. Break-ups are so much harder when they are constantly plaguing your life. Wondering thoughts of how they’re doing, what they’re doing, who they’re with, if they are seeing anyone else will just make you super-insanely bonkers. Delete them, ignorance is bliss
Surround yourself with people who love you
Friends, family – whoever is there for you and cares about you will be able to empathise with your situation and will be determined to help get you through it. Spend as much time with them as you can: limit the time you are alone for, no matter how badly you want to just sit and mope alone with a box full of choccys.
Keep busy
Try and work hard, keep up hobbies and exercise, pretty much anything to distract you and take your mind off things, even if only temporarily.
Take a bath
Long baths are perfect for the broken hearted. They allow you to wallow in your misery, but also relax and pamper you: essentially giving you a warm hug in the form of being immersed in scented, bubbly water
Ditch the rose-tinted memories
It’s so easy to think back on the relationship through rose-tinted glasses, only remembering the good times and thinking that it was perfect. In a way, you have to think of all those things that weren’t quite right in the relationship: things that bugged you, bad times, or even reasons why the relationship broke down. It may be hard, but accepting the loss is less difficult when you realise that something fundamentally wasn’t right.
Listen to music
Music stimulates the mind and can improve or change your mood without you even realising. Listen to your favourite artist and soak up the sounds that you love. Having said that, avoid music that reminds you of your ex – it will stir up old memories and ultimately make you feel worse
Cry
Let it out: releasing all the anger, pain and stress is better than keeping it all bottled up inside
Whatever you do, never forget that you WILL get through it all. No matter how heart-broken you feel, how much you hurt, how much you’re convinced it will never get better: believe me it will. You are so strong, so beautiful and deserve someone that will never let you go.
As much as you may be over-thinking things, be worrying or be upset now, soon you will realise that this pain will translate into valuable life experience, and that this is just one hurdle on your road to finding yourself, as well as love again.
