Love is amazing and relationships are fantastic. But what happens when things start to go awry and you’re not entirely sure why?
What are the seven ways to successfully ruin your relationship, and lose the one you love?
While there is a number of ways to ruin a relationship, the following seven are by far the worst (and most common) of them all:
Big shocker. Cheating is the number one relationship killer. Once someone cheats in a relationship, the trust is broken. And trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship.
Sure, you find ways to overcome the effects of the betrayal, but when unfaithfulness taints your relationship, it’s next to impossible to restore it to its former glory.[You may also like: How To Handle Being Cheated On]
Slightly less painful than cheating, but still significant in ruining relationships. Lying to your partner immediately puts strain on your trust.
The truth always comes out, one way or another. Even one little lie diminishes the love and respect between you and your partner. The nature, the gravity, or even the circumstances of the lie doesn’t even matter. A lie is a lie. It will always be that much harder to know ifanything either of you says is true.
#3 Lack of communication.
It’s hard to imagine in this tech-driven world we live in, a relationship failing due to a lack of communication. But using your phone to communicate is often more convenient than it is effective.
It’s great that you tune in to your friends, family, and quickly text your partner that you need them to pick up milk, but it’s not the way for you to communicate on a daily basis, especially not to your partner.
Sending a heart-shaped emoji is not the same thing as saying “I love you” in person or over the phone. The same way posting an emotional quote is not the same as letting your partner know something’s bothering you in your relationship.
#4 Lack of sex.
Being physically attracted to your partner is extremely important when it comes to healthy and long-lasting relationships. If the sex is dwindling for whatever reason, then why not pick it up again? If it’s due to exhaustion – make time earlier in the day. If it’s because you just don’t ‘feel it’, then perhaps you need some time apart to miss each other! Everyone goes through slumps, but don’t forget about your partner’s needs!
Without the sexual attraction that first brought you two together, you only end up drifting further and further apart.
#5 Money matters.
Money does matter. But it shouldn’t be the foundation of your relationship. Having money is necessary and even convenient, but the love you bear your partner shouldn’t be proportional to the contents of their bank account.
Striving to have money to live a comfortable life and go on fun dates and buy presents for each other is reasonable. However, fighting over money you don’t necessarily need, or jealousy over one partner earning more, is dangerous and shows you’re both shallow enough toput money before a loving relationship.
It’s important to create a healthy work/life balance when in a relationship. Yes, providing for your partner is important, but it’s just as important as giving them your time and attention. Making your partner feel like they’re not a priority is one of the biggest relationship killers.
No one is “too busy” to have time for someone they care about. A text message, a quick call, or even an hour set aside for a lunch date can all be squeezed into even the busiest of schedules.
Last, but not the least, is complacency.It’s fine to be comfortable in your relationship, but that sense of comfort easily slips into being too lazy to try anything new.
You know you love each other. Why bother trying to change anything, right? Wrong. Just as I wrote in The Number One Reason Why a Relationship Goes Stale, Relationships easily become boring when all you ever do is do the same thing, watch the same films, do the same hobbies, year in, year out. You need excitement, growth, and most of all, passion! In lacking this, you allow your relationship to go stale.
Are you ruining your relationship unintentionally? Do you recognise any of these signs?
Relationship and love requires hard work, dedication and patience. To avoid losing ‘the spark’, we need to continually evolve and grow, surprise your partner on occasion and show them that you are growing as a person. Always look for new ways to improve and evolve your relationship,