Dating someone new can be both exciting and a little scary. In order to find ‘the one’, here are the dating goals you should keep in mind…
The dating game is complicated, fun, and sometimes really frustrating. How do you know if you’re barking up the wrong tree? There are certain dating goals which can help you whilst on the lookout for in a new partner. And there are certain expectations that should be met when you’re dating someone new.
Of course, if you’re just dating someone for fun, then you may be less concerned with these factors, but really the aim of dating goals is to know your value, and spend your time wisely!
But don’t mistake these values as a ‘check-list’: these aren’t must-haves, but instead goals in which to bare in mind to respect yourself, and ultimately find the right person for you…[Read: The Biggest Dating Mistake: The ‘Check-List’]
#1 Date someone who’s in it for the right reasons
It’s easy to ignore signs that the person you’re dating isn’t on the same page as you. Obviously you don’t want to scare them off in the first instance, but you have to keep your eyes open and understand your own expectations from dating this person. The easiest way is to simply tell them you want someone who’s in it for the real deal.
You’re ready to find the one and you need to make sure they want to, too. If you just date anyone and hope that they want the same things as you, you could end up really hurt. You may get snowed under with emotions, to only find out they’re just looking for some fun in the bedroom.[Read: 5 Signs He Doesn’t Want A Relationship]
#2 Someone who adds value to your life
This dating goal is a biggy, you need to be with someone who adds value to your life. If you’re the only person bringing anything positive to the table and you’re receiving nothing, it’s pretty much guaranteed to end badly.
A successful relationship is a two-way street. You both need to give and take.
#3 Someone who makes you laugh
Life isn’t always full of sunshine and rainbows, and you will be faced with hard times. You need to find someone who can make you laugh and who you can laugh easily with.
During the toughest times, you’ll need that person to help lift your spirits.
#4 A person who respects your time
Our time is limited. We shouldn’t waste it. Therefore, you should date someone who respects your time and is aware that you’re giving up a lot by dating them.
If you’re dating someone who hardly gets back to you at all, or will only see you when it’s best for them, they’re certainly not worth it. Find someone else who will respect the time you give them.[Read: 13 Signs You’re Dating a Fuckboy]
#5 One who shares your most important values
You don’t need to have everything in common with the person you’re with. You can enjoy different types of hobbies, food and music and still work. That is, so long as you have the same core values.
One of your dating goals should be to find someone who shares your deepest beliefs. These are things like religion, your morals, and the things you value most. The things that make you who you are and direct your life should be shared with the person you’ll end up spending a good portion of your life with.
#6 Someone with a passion
It doesn’t matter what the passion is. You just want someone who is passionate about something. Make one of your goals to date someone like this. Our passions speak volumes about us, it’ll help show you who they are.
#7 Someone who takes an interest in your interests
This isn’t to say that they have to have the same hobbies as you. They may not even understand a hobby of yours at all, or vice versa. This is more of them actively trying to find interest in the things you love and care about. What makes you happy, makes them happy.
You’re likely to pick up new hobbies and interests as life goes on and you need someone who is supportive of those things. It doesn’t matter if they don’t understand them.
#8 A person who isn’t embarrassed by you
If someone is genuinely embarrassed to be seen, or associated with you; someone who tells you how to act, or to talk in a certain way – run a mile. They should love you for you, and be proud that your theirs.
#9 A person who you can talk seriously with
As well as someone who you can laugh with, you also need to find someone you can get deep with. All jokes and humour won’t cut it in the real world. Your expectations need to be deeper than that.
You need to be able to talk about the difficult stuff and the meaningful things in life. Finding someone who can connect with you on a deeper level and who you can actually talk about meaningful things with is crucial to finding the person to spend your life with.
#10 Someone who ultimately envisions a similar life as you
This is something that needs to be high on your list of dating goals. You should be looking for someone who has the same vision of what a happy life looks like. If you two disagree on this, you’ll never be able to actually live a happy life with them without being unhappy about certain things.
Dating goals are all about valuing your self-worth, and doing what’s right for you. Everyone can compromise, everyone can learn, but we only have one life – don’t settle for ‘someone’ who will just do. You deserve everything, and with these dating goals, you will find someone who will make your heart shine and your smile beam.